Quotes are something very personal, birthed from a moment in someone's life, associated with a person, a chapter, or an event that generated strong emotions.
We are not what happened to us, we are what we are holding on to.
The first question you should ask is why you need to explain yourself.
When we move on, we move on. Maybe down the line we cross paths and share how we felt, but we are free of the need of it.
Taking a step back can range from taking a moment to assess to stepping back before making a 180 turn.
The more time and energy we invest in an environment, situation, relationship, project we are working on, the blurrier our vision becomes and the harder it is to let go. Everything has a beginning, a middle, and an end. Training ourselves on how to clean the lenses with which we view our experiences can help us recognize when a chapter is over. When we can clearly see why is over, it is easier to let go.
Need for a step back:
- We stop taking care of ourselves.
- Tiredness leading to lack of patience.
- Life is out of balance.
- Consumed by emotions we have no control over.
It all starts and ends in our minds. What we give power to has power over us.
We can brainwash ourselves, surround ourselves with uplifting humans, fill our life with positivity, change our narrative. When life confronts us we are all put through the same test: How much trust do we have in our process, how much trust do we have in ourselves?
Vulnerability is often associated with weaknesses, fear, hurt or betrayal. What vulnerability really is though, is the ability of showing up and allowing to be seen. Sure, being vulnerable means we are putting ourselves out there, we are taking the risk of being rejected, criticized, getting hurt. But, putting ourselves out there can also be very rewarding.
True vulnerability is great strength, authenticity and courage.
Courage because we become one with our authentic self, instead of hiding behind a mask to fit in or to please others.
Authenticity because we are all unique when we are true to ourselves.
Becomes our greatest strength when we learn to trust ourselves.
In order to learn to trust ourselves we must be willing and allow ourselves to be vulnerable.
Vulnerability is trust in ourselves. It is allowing ourselves to be seen for who we are and embracing where we are at.
It is trust in our process.
People introduce us to ourselves. They introduce us to what we are capable of, both sides of the coin. We choose which side we are the most comfortable living with. like to believe we do choose that. I like to believe after a certain age the choice is conscious.
Be you. The imperfect, learning and growing. You.
Discover what you enjoy. Start with the things you enjoyed as a child, when you had no filters. When you were free from distractions and money had no value. Then move up to new things.
We all want to live in a state of flow. State of flow brilliantly interpreted by psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi: "Being completely in an activity for its own sake. The ego falls away. Time flies.
Every action, movement and thought follows inevitably from the previous one, like playing jazz. Your whole being is involved, and you are using your skills to the utmost." Explore you, discover you through what you enjoy. Find what makes you, you and then design the life you want based on what you enjoy.
Allow yourself to grow through what you go through. Take everything as positive feedback towards the life you desire.
Have seen people spend the most beautiful years of their lives suppressing their needs for the sake of maintaining a peaceful relationship with their parents, friends, employers, coworkers, ex, current partner, and so on. Have seen them being at war with the most significant relationship they have, the one with theirselves. Manifesting ulcers, high blood pressure, premature aging, weak immune system, illnesses...
Who cares what the world thinks, it's your life. Live your life in freedom. Have transparency with your parents they will eventually come around. Everyone else, everyone else is trying to figure things out too.
Life’s short, make sure you are thriving.
Reflecting is not always pleasant, but it is vital.
Self-discovery starts the moment we get that unsettling feeling of something missing and questions start pouring in. Who am I? What do I want? What do I need? What I allow and why? What brings me joy and why? What do I attract and why? What do I want to attract and why? What's important to me? What do I value? What do I enjoy? What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses? What's my purpose?.. The bigger the overload the bigger the revelation.
We never really know what's going on in someone's life. A simple act of kindness can change someone's view of the world, can give someone hope.
Communication is made up of: 7% words, 38% tonality, 55% body language.
People remember words charged with energy. Sometimes they don't even remember the exact words, but they always remember how they interpreted them and the meanings they gave them. In stressful situations people don't listen to understand, they just reply. Every word becomes a thought, every thought creates an image, every image is attached to an emotion, and every emotion comes with energy. That's how a memory gets created.
Take a moment, go for a walk, see it as an observe, assess the situation, handle it with calmness.